Many of us make New Year resolutions every year, and a majority of us fail to continue on them even for a week. So here's a fresh take on the problem.

Start early. Start your resolutions today, so you'll have 5 days to figure out whether you can actually get them to work, by Jan 1 2012. And you'll know what you need to  tweak, so that they actually work. 

Make sure you work on it for 66 days, Researchers tell us that would be the magical number to make a habit stick for one, five or 10 years. Make March 2 the minimum date until which you have to keep your resolution. 

Write everyday about your experience of keeping the resolution. 25 words, fifty words, one page..... make sure you write something, everyday.

Visualize the process of accomplishing your resolutions. Not the outcome but the process. It would get you to commit to your resolutions more effectively.

So start. Now.

Love Manifesto

Marriage 4.0

Its all about giving. All the time.

Its about amazing the other. everyday. For life

Its about being in love. all over love. Fully love. Always.

Its placing the other ahead of you. Even during dinner. Or a trip to the loo. 

Its about feeling the " I love you", even when it is not heard. 

Its listening when you hear. Every time. 

Its smiling with your eyes. Even with the tears. Every time you see.

what are the chances?

....that you give everybody a second chance....everytime!

And as much as we would like to believe otherwise, we have been granted so many second chances and yet we are so stuck up about giving another person that same privilege. And we vow..."I'll never trust men (or women) again!", "I will never believe anybody again!, "I'll never love again", "I will not forgive them"...etc.

Give that second chance another chance and chances are you'll never have to take another chance about where your life is headed.

Life Manifesto

The Holstee Manifesto by Dave Radparvar, Mike Radparvar & Fabian Pfortmüller. Typography by Rachael Beresh.

Marital Bliss

Step 1. Find a person that YOU can amaze for the rest of THEIR life. *
Step 2. Do the amazement thing on the 1st of every month.
Step 3. Repeat for the rest of the month.

My amazed wife responded with a unique question; does that mean if a person finds somebody dumb enough to be amazed at everything they do, will they have marital bliss?

Well sure, they will. But my point being, if you start to take an active interest in amazing your better half, he/she will start ignoring your little shortcomings because he/she is too busy being amazed everyday. And you will be busy amazing them, you may not have enough time to make mistakes and ergo marital bliss.


*For those already married, start to amaze your spouse starting yesterday.

Get something new done. for the next 31 days!

We have been proving ourselves time and again that we cannot sustain behavior, though by doing so we are actually sustaining the behavior of not sustaining behavior!, like i used to tell my dad I am very consistent at being inconsistent.

So here goes, if we can actually do that, its time to start now. small sustainable changes done continuously can make you consistent in them. And that is exactly the reason why our new year resolutions don't work. We think about achieving a whole lot, without actually looking or thinking or planning how we would like to achieve them.

Ever wanted to write a book? start today for the next 31 days. Everyday make sure you write 483 words by 11:59 p.m. every night and voila by January 1st 2012 you have a 14,973 word book! Want to really match a weight goal, start with what exercise you want to and go at it for the next 31 days. Want to improve your photography, take a picture a day for the next 31 days and trouble all your friends by posting them to facebook :)

Its not only about doing stuff, but also make undoing stuff. Troubled about something you want to stop but never could? Start today for the next 31 days get off it. Remember don't do it today till 11:59 p.m. and continue till the end of the month.

Why do this? For one you can make a habit of these lovely things you can come up with, and get out of habits/behaviour/moods that you don't like.

This month will pass whether you do something or don't do something, get the most of the month and start now! the journey is going to be exciting! Godspeed!